This is a question I often find myself pondering.
My lovely wife and I have a fantastic sexlife, and are very physically intimate. Often, during the post-punishment consolation and cuddling phase, my wife will whisper “please make love to me, Sir”.
Of course I always RSVP to such sweet invitations, my wife is a heartstoppingly beautiful and alluring woman and no man in his right mind would turn her down.
However, I often find myself wondering how and why a punishment spanking has led us to lovemaking. Is it the physical closeness that it engenders? Is my wife aroused by my dominance and, likewise, me by her submission? There have never been any BDSM-related tendencies in our marriage so it’s certainly not related to that.
I asked my wife her thoughts on why spanking often led to lovemaking. She said:
“for me, there are three reasons. Firstly, lovemaking feels like the ultimate cuddle, the ultimate way of “making everything better” after punishment.
Secondly, it feels like a valuable and powerful part of the reconnection process, a reaffirmation of the fact that however harsh a spanking is, my husband is acting out of love.
Thirdly, having my husband make love to me feels like the final act of total submission following a spanking…having given him everything else, surrendering my body and sex to him feels like the final piece of the jigsaw falling into place”
Hearing this not only made perfect sense, it also mirrored my feelings, making sense of my instinctive need for physical closeness of the most intimate kind with my wife following a spanking.
So, the simple answer is that one of the consequences of our DD lifestyle is that sometimes, following a spanking, we both want and need sexual intimacy on the grounds of both physical and emotional reconnection, and continuity of our roles within our marriage and lifestyle.
One thing’s for sure, I’m a happy and satisfied HOH, and I’m certainly not complaining!